Why I Didn’t Tell My Doctor I’m Trans Before My Abortion

Three trans men and nonbinary people talk to writer Kam Burns about their abortion experiences and the importance of inclusive health care.

BY KAM BURNS
November 23, 2020

El Sanchez was crying as the nurse held their hand. "I'm sorry," the nurse said. "This is always really hard for women." But at that moment, Sanchez wasn't crying from the emotional consequences of getting an abortion; they were crying because of the physical pain. Soon, Sanchez began bawling. Both the nurse and the doctor performing the procedure continued to misgender them, ignoring their insistence that, really, they were fine, and no, they didn't need their "boyfriend."

This was Sanchez's second abortion, but their first since coming out as nonbinary. "The first time, you know, I didn't get emotional at all," Sanchez tells Allure. "[During my second abortion] the combination of the doctor misgendering me, and then forcing these heterosexual gender roles on me, made me feel even more erased in the situation, and so it became much more emotional for me."

Continued: https://www.allure.com/story/abortion-trans-man-nonbinary-experience